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  I believe that everyone wants to love and be loved and that happiness stems from a facing and acceptance of self that allows you to give and receive love.

  我相信,爱与被爱是每个人的渴望。一个人是否幸福,关键在于他是否拥有爱并能够接受爱。

  认为爱是一种充满激-情,渴望,又戏剧化的感觉

  Some think of love as a passionate,hungry,dramatic feeling,all-consuming in intensity and desire.As I see it,this is,rather,immature love;it is a demand on others,not a giving of oneself.Mature love,the love that brings happiness,flows out of an inner fullness,and accepts,understands,and is tender toward the other person.It does not ask to be served,but only where it may serve.

  有些人认为爱是一种充满激-情,渴望,又戏剧化的感觉,全然就是刺激与欲望。在我看来,这是很不成熟的爱;这是在索取他人,而非奉献自我。成熟的爱,是带来幸福的爱,它因自身的丰盛而从深处满溢,给予他人接受,理解和温柔。它不求索取,只求给予。

  Six years ago,I could hardly breathe because of acute sinus.My stomach was always upset and full of queasiness,and I had trouble sleeping,even though I felt exhausted all the time.In desperation,after doctors who treated the physical symptoms failed to ease the pain,I tried psychoanalysis.I was lucky to find a wise,compassionate man who showed me what it meant to be able to trust myself and others.

  六年前,由于鼻窦炎,我几乎无法呼吸;肠胃状况不容乐观,易恶心呕吐;睡眠也不好,即使整日精疲力尽都难以入眠。临床医生没法缓解我的痛苦,绝望中,我去做了心理治疗。我很幸运地找到了一位博学又温柔的人,他向我展示了信任自己和他人的意义所在。

  生活的哲学
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  The physical ills are gone,but more than that,I have at long last started to acquire a philosophy of living.I had never possessed one.I had lived on dogma and dicta which I had accepted unquestioningly through the years,even though I believed little of it,because I feared to question.But by being unable to live naturally and at peace with myself,I was flying in the face of nature.She was punishing me with illness and,at the same time,informing me all was not well,just in case I wanted to do something about it.

  我生理上的疾病已然褪去,不仅如此,过了这么久,我终于开始懂得生活的哲学,而我之前则一无所知。多年来我一直毫无疑问的循着教条与格言生活,即使我信之甚少,但我不敢提出质疑。过着做作的生活,还心浮气躁,这便是在违反自然规律。自然母亲在用疾病惩罚我,也在告诉我,你现在一切不好,提醒我要做出改变。

  In order to change,I needed help in facing myself.For me,it was not easy to“know thyself.”All my life I had accepted the lesser of the two evils and run away from self,because truth was more dangerous.Once I thought that to survive,I had to put on a mask and forget what lay underneath.But masks are false protections,and the inner part of me refused to go unheard forever.It caught up eventually,and unless it was to master me,I had to face such feelings as fear,anger,envy,hatred,jealousy,and excessive need for attention.When I realized I could not have done anything else except what I did,I was able to like myself more and be able to like others,not for what they could give me but for what I could give to them.
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  为了做出改变,我需要他人帮我直面自己。对我来说,“了解自己”并不容易。我一生都是在两害相权取其轻者,我选择逃避自我,因为比起隐藏自我,接受事实反而更危险些。一旦我想到要生存,就必须戴上“面具”,并忘掉其下的面目。但戴上面具是错误的保护手段,我的内心不肯永远缄默。被隐藏的真我最终找上门来了,除非我面对自我,不然我不得不面对恐惧,愤怒,嫉妒,仇恨,嫉妒和对关注的极度渴望。当我意识到我就是我,我便能够更喜欢自己,也懂得了喜欢别人,不是因为我能得到,而是因为我能奉献。

  The Bible shows the way to easy,happy living in many of its pages.It advises,“It is more blessed to give than to receive.”Those who expect the most are apt to receive the least.I had expected much and was filled with fury because nothing in the outside world relieved my emptiness and despair.Nothing did either,until I could face the anger and fury,the emptiness and despair,and slowly start to know such new feelings as compassion,conviction,control,calm.I learned too of reason—that judicious combination of thought and feeling that enables me to take more responsibility for myself and others.

  圣经中许多部分都展示了轻松快乐的生活方式。它说:“给予比得到更幸福。”那些期望最高的人则是得到最少的。我期望很高,并且满腔不快,因为外界没有任何东西可以缓解我的空虚和绝望。直到我能够面对自我的恼火和暴怒,空虚和绝望,并逐渐开始懂得同情,信念,控制,镇定之类的新感觉。我也学到了理性,这种明智的思想和感情的结合,使我能够为自己和他人承担更多的责任。

  For me,there is much hard work ahead to achieve greater happiness.Yet,the very struggle I have put into achieving a measure of it,makes happiness that much more dear.

  对我来说,要实现更大的幸福需要付出很多努力。然而,我在实现这一目标而艰苦努力的过程中所得到的幸福则更加弥足珍贵。
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